Depression During the Holidays

During the extra stress and activity of the holidays often new mom’s find themselves wondering why they are not as excite as usual.  Fear not!  You are not weird and this is not permanent.  Nearly every new mom with whom I have worked has experienced some level of postpartum depression.  Usually it is very mild and resolved in a couple conversations.

Moving from professional woman to the role of motherhood is a major transformation!  In my assessment there is not enough said about how this will affect you!  Your body has just completed creating a whole other person.  This little person is completely dependent upon you!  Your body is trying to transform back to its original state.  In the midst of all this you are learning to care for the new you and your baby.  It is allot to go through.

Allowing yourself the time and calm to learn and acclimate to all this is wise.  This is why  maternity leave in the US is three to six months.  It takes that long to start feeling like yourself again!  I so wish OB’s helped their clients understand the changes taking place.  New moms tell me: “My brain isn’t working right!”;  “I am so tired all the time!”;  “When will I feel like myself again?”.

One of my most valuable qualities for you, the new mommy, I my ability to walk you through this path and help you see the light at the end of the tunnel.  You will be yourself soon.  Allow your mind and body to recuperate at your rate.  Don’t push yourself to go back to work before you are really ready.  Permit yourself the time you need to fully recover.  You will not regret it!

Below find a one sheet discussion sheet on postpartum issues.  If you feel you are experiencing these symptoms talk to a professional.  Contact me, I would love to help you  find the help you need.  Take with your OB.  Everyone deals with these issues on some level after having a baby.  You are wise to get the help you need quickly!


Take Care of Yourself!

Somehow, when the holidays hit, life becomes more of a whirlwind than normal!  There are so many projects to complete, friends and family who want time, activities you want to add to the schedule:  tree lightings, Christmas movies, cookies to bake, etc.,  Life becomes so busy many find themselves exhausted and ill.  With small children, your family life is already on the edge.  If you allow yourself to become ill who is going to pick up the slack?

Make your home a place of peace.  Be the gate keeper of your schedule.  Be aware of when you are over planned.  Learn to say , “NO”.  There is always next Christmas.  If something can’t fit into the schedule, do it later.  Do not allow yourself to be pushed to your limit.  At that point none of the holiday activities are fun anyway!

Your small children and family members won’t mind doing activities in January if that works better.  Your peace of mind is far more valuable to you and your family than another lunch out, etc.

Figure out what helps you relax and plan it into your days.  I used to save Fridays as our day off.  We would not schedule any other activities for Friday.  It was a family day to enjoy.  We went to the park or beach and had time together.  It was my recharge day.  Oh how valuable and mentally relaxing having one day completely off worked out.


An Advent of Kindness!!!

Starting December 1st lets do an Advent of Kindness!!!  Advent is the time leading up to Christmas Day.  This project costs very little and blesses many including you!  Lets focus on how to bless those with whom we come in contact through out the harried holiday season.  The list below is divided by date.  It encourages you to think about others on a daily basis.  If you want to double up your kindnesses do so!   JUDY

December 1st: Give someone a hug!

2nd:   Pay someone a compliment!

3rd:    Let someone in front of you in line!

4th:    Hold a door open for someone!

5th:    Give someone you love your full attention!

6th:    Do something kind for a local charity!

7th:    Tell a joke to make someone laugh!

8th:     Do something kind for yourself!

9th:     Hide a happy note for someone to find today!

10th:   Donate unwanted books to a local charity!

11th:    Smile at a stranger, or 2, or 15!!!

12th:    Contact an old friend or relative!

13th:     Let a car in front of you in traffic!

14th:     Write or text a big thank you to someone!

15th:     Pay for someone’s order at the drive thru!

16th:     Smile and say a jolly thank you to someone who serves you!

17th:     Do something kind for your spouse, friend, child, etc.!

18th:     Tell someone you love them!

19th:     Offer to help someone!

20th:      Feed wild animals, birds, or ducks!

21st:       Donate unwanted clothing or toys to charity!

22nd:     Prepare an unexpected kindness for someone!

23rd:     Provide something special for your postman!

24th:     Ponder the reason for the season!

25th:     Read a favorite holiday story to little ones.

26th:     Spend quite time with those you love!

27th:     Think about what has brought you the most joy over the last month!

28th:     Write or text thank you’s for any gifts you received!

29th:     Contact the first person you think of and wish them a Happy Hew Year!!!

30th:     Consider all the wonderful things you experienced over the past year!

31st:      Decide which of these kindness you want to take into the New Year!