Warmer days, flowers and new life everywhere!!! I love the spring time! It is wonderful to be out doors, enjoying nature! What are your plans for the more comfortable days? It’s a great idea to talk with your family about what you would like to do this season. Do you want to plan a weekend get away? Would you like to spend time at the beach or lake? Will you participate in Mommy n Me classes, swimming lessons, or walks in the park?
Acclimating baby to the out doors is both fun and important. Living in an area where the winters are harsh makes this the best time of year to do this. There are many interesting and fun ways to take advantage of opportunities in your community. Our city offers kids cooking classes, swimming or tennis lessons, and field trips to museums and the like. Most of this information is available online. Or telephone your city hall and ask where to locate these adventures. Talk with your friends about their plans. Perhaps your church has MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) meetings.
As a new mom I found it so much easier to participate in these kinds of adventures with other mommies. This way, if you need to use the bathroom or run to the car for something you do not have to pack up everything you brought with you. Other moms understand the time in life in which you are living. They are more than happy to help out where they are able. In addition sharing suggestions, asking questions, and simply finding support are very helpful. Know you are not alone in this process. Learning and growing as a parent is much more fun with others!!!
As we look at the world around us things appear to be fairly uncertain. How do we look ahead and make the best choices for our families? One of the areas where this directly affects us as moms is how can we prepare food items for those we take care of? There are pantry items that literally last forever. Having a few of these tucked away relieves the stress of future shortages. Below are two different articles discussing this topic.
Please do not stress our over this. Food is not going to disappear, or become so expensive we cannot afford it. Having a few of these items in your pantry allows you freedom to not worry about it. It is less expensive to purchase a 50 lb bag of rice than smaller amounts. These are available at places like Sam’s Cub, Costco, and Smart and Final. Share one with other family members or close friends. Rice never spoils. Sugar never spoils if stored in sealed dry containers. Dried beans will stay usable indefinitely if stored properly.
As the one responsible for feeding my family it takes allot of pressure off me if I know I have a few meals available in my pantry. I sleep better having that confidence. Think about the things that give you that kind of peace. Take the time now to prepare for this. Then, every couple of years, cycle those items through your meals and restock your long term food supply. If this is too much for you to consider with so many other things for which you are responsible, ask your spouse or a friend to take care of this for you. There are folks our there who love this kind of thing. Our family members in Alaska have to think of this due to the inclement weather conditions they sometimes experience. They have small children so it is really important for them to be prepared.
Honey. Honey may crystallize over time, but it won’t actually expire or become unusable. Heating it in the microwave or over water on the stove resolves the crystallization, returning it to it’s natural state.
Sugar. White, brown and powdered sugar can be used indefinitely if they are stored in an airtight container away from light and heat. …
White Rice. … Brown rice does not save well due to the spoilage of the husks on each kernel, but white rice will literally stay usable forever! There are so many ways to prepare it, store some away for yourself.
Pure Vanilla Extract. …
Loose Popcorn, microwave popcorn will not save for the longterm, but bagged popcorn is a great treat! Get some and hide it away, just in case.
Here are some of my favorite recipes to aid in your recovery from birth and enhancing your milk supply. Hope you enjoy every one!!! Please pass on any you have found delicious so we can share!!!
Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Lactation Cookies
3 Tablespoons Brewer’s Yeast (do not substitute)
2 Tablespoons Flaxseed Meal
3 Cups Slow Rolled Oats (found these in the bins at my local health foods store)
2 Cups of Organic Dark Chocolate Chips (the organic one’s taste even better)
3 Tablespoons of Peanut Butter
1 Cup of Butter
1 Cup of White Granulated Sugar
1 Cup of Firmly Packed Brown Sugar
2 Cups of Flour
4 Tablespoons of Water (you can also use milk if desired)
1 Teaspoon of Baking Soda
1 Teaspoon of Salt
1 Teaspoon Vanilla
1 Teaspoon Cinnamon
Preheat your oven to 350 degrees.
Mix the water with the Flaxseed Meal in a small bowl and allow it to sit for 5 minutes.
In the meantime, combine the butter, granulated sugar, brown sugar, vanilla, and the eggs in a bowl and beat with a mixer for 2-3 minutes until all ingredients are well mixed.
Add the flaxseed to the mixture until well blended and set aside.
In a separate bowl combine the flour, baking soda, cinnamon, salt, and brewer’s yeast. You can use a spatula to mix the ingredients together. Combine this mixture to the butter mixture which takes another 1-2 minutes.
Stir the oats, chocolate chips, and the peanut butter into the mixture until well blended.
Using a tablespoon scoop out mixture and place onto a lightly greased cookie sheet. I used my hands to create little balls of cookie dough. Make sure to space them about 2 inches apart.
Bake for 10-13 minutes depending on your oven. Mine were baked for exactly 13 minutes then I allowed them to cool on the pan for another 3-4 minutes and they were baked perfectly.
6 cups roast chicken bone broth (see Instant Pot recipe here)
½ tsp fresh thyme
1 1×1 inch piece of rind for good quality parmesan cheese (optional)
½ tsp ground turmeric
2 loosely packed cups kale, stemmed and chopped
Salt & pepper to taste
Set Instant Pot to “Sauté” and add 1 tablespoon olive oil. Add chicken and sauté in pot for until browned on both sides (does not need to be cooked through).
Remove chicken from pot and place on a plate.
With Instant Pot still on “Sauté” add the second tablespoon of olive oil and sauté onions, celery and carrots until soft, about five minutes. Stir in garlic and cook for one minute more.
Add chicken back into pot along with farro, bone broth, parmesan rind and turmeric. Lock the lid in place and cook soup on high pressure for 12 minutes.
When cooking time ends, natural pressure release for 5 minutes, then quick release.
Set Instant Pot to “Warm.” Remove lid and discard parmesan rind. Use a fork to shred chicken into bite sized pieces. Stir in kale and allow the soup to sit for 2 minutes to allow the kale to soften. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Serve immediately.
Believe it or not, dehydration is one of the most common problems in breastfeeding!!!! How can that be? Certainly we have access to plenty of fluids, water, juice, and more. Why is it then, that nursing moms are constipated, and bear the hallmarks of dehydration such as headaches, dry skin, digestive problems and the like?
Is it that we just don’t think it can happen to us? Do we not understand the signs of this problem? Or is it that new moms are so overwhelmed with the many life changes going on they forget to take care of themselves?
Personally, I believe the latter. New mom’s are going through so many changes just after delivery they don’t see their own physical needs. Doulas. like myself, encourage mommies to record their liquid intake in writing. We do this because it is so easy to forget how much has been consumed.
When you are exhausted, sleep deprived, stressed in learning how to care for your baby, unsure about how to do this, and more, self care goes out the window! Yet, if you are not doing well, who cares for you baby? One of the things I tell every mom with whom I work is “Drink more water than you think humanly possible”. This means drink and drink and drink and drink!!! You need water for your own bodily functions, water for the process of making breastmilk, and water for the milk itself. In addition, your body has just made another human and is healing from this. The changes you are experiencing are profound!
Having a trained professional to walk you through this process is imperative. When I was breastfeeding my body was experiencing dehydration. I did not know that is what it was at the time. But, in hindsight, there is no question. As a new mom I needed someone who understood the process to point this out to me. I consider it such a privilege to be able to serve mom’s in this way.
My clients are encouraged to drink a gallon of water immediately after birth. Actually, I encourage mommies to begin drinking this amount a few weeks prior to birth. Being hydrated helps labor immensely. Did your OB tell you this? Consuming liquids shortly after labor helps flush your body of medications and hormones produced during delivery. It also specifically aids in the production of your milk supply.
Concern about milk supply is universal. Every new mom thinks about it. Being ahead of the game by drinking enough water brings peace, relieving the stress of this concern. It is one of those “Just Do It” moments!!! Drink enough water and you will be so glad you did!!!
This is a tool I provide for my clients. It is a simple chart encouraging them to record their food and liquid consumption on a daily basis. This is not intended to be a chore but a helpful reminder. Often mommies will forget to eat all day!!! The day just gets away from them. Please use this to help you remember to take care of yourself as you care for your little darling!!
Below find several articles describing the signs of dehydration. You want to feel your very best as you acclimate to your new role as mommy. Please do not hesitate to ask me questions if I can help.
been taking medicines that make you pee more (diuretics)
Thirst isn’t always a reliable early indicator of the body’s need for water. Many people, particularly older adults, don’t feel thirsty until they’re already dehydrated. That’s why it’s important to increase water intake during hot weather or when you’re ill.
The signs and symptoms of dehydration also may differ by age.
Infant or young child
Dry mouth and tongue
No tears when crying
No wet diapers for three hours
Sunken eyes, cheeks
Sunken soft spot on top of skull
Listlessness or irritability
Less frequent urination
When to see a doctor
Call your family doctor if you or a loved one:
Has had diarrhea for 24 hours or more
Is irritable or disoriented and much sleepier or less active than usual
Can’t keep down fluids Has bloody or black stool
Sometimes dehydration occurs for simple reasons: You don’t drink enough because you’re sick or busy, or because you lack access to safe drinking water when you’re traveling, hiking or camping.
Other dehydration causes include:
Diarrhea, vomiting. Severe, acute diarrhea — that is, diarrhea that comes on suddenly and violently — can cause a tremendous loss of water and electrolytes in a short amount of time. If you have vomiting along with diarrhea, you lose even more fluids and minerals.
Fever. In general, the higher your fever, the more dehydrated you may become. The problem worsens if you have a fever in addition to diarrhea and vomiting.
Excessive sweating. You lose water when you sweat. If you do vigorous activity and don’t replace fluids as you go along, you can become dehydrated. Hot, humid weather increases the amount you sweat and the amount of fluid you lose.
Increased urination. This may be due to undiagnosed or uncontrolled diabetes. Certain medications, such as diuretics and some blood pressure medications, also can lead to dehydration, generally because they cause you to urinate more.
New moms are concerned about their breastmilk supply. This fear is universal. Breastfeeding is a bit of an unknown. Your body makes milk and will release it to a breast pump, but no where as well as it will let down in breastfeeding. Thus, pumping really does not let you know how much milk your baby is drinking. Your pediatrician will weigh your baby in his diaper and then have you feed him. Then baby will be weighed again in the same clothing as before. This gives an accurate weight on the breastmilk consumed. You can weigh baby fully dressed before and after a feeding with the same results.
I am a minimalist on baby gear. As you know, you can spend thousands of dollars on what some will tell you absolutely have to have in your home. Me, not so much. I encourage families to purchase the essential items and wait until baby is here to decide what else you truly want to have around. So, when I recommend baby gear, you know it is serious! Ha! Because there is such a great concern of new mothers for their breastmilk supply, I am now recommending the purchase of a baby scale. If you have friends delivering months before or after you share one with them. It is not something you will need to use for long, but the peace it can give you that you baby is receiving enough breastmilk is so worth it! They start at under $30.00.
My lack of computer skills has not allowed me to add a photo of a scale. Look up ‘infant weight scale’. Many will materialize. Or better yet, talk with friends and family about which ones they like best. Recommendations are the most practical way to find high quality items. If a baby scale can minimize stress for you in the early months of parenting it is totally worth the cost!!!
How do you see tummy time? In the early weeks of parenthood there are so many different things you are thinking of. If this is your first baby you are truly overwhelmed! New mommies are concerned about their milk supply, their baby’s feedings, pooping, urinating, skin issues, and on and on. In addition to all this your pediatrician recommends practicing tummy time early on. Why?
Over the years the pendulum of baby care swings back and forth. Breastfeeding, tummy time, when to introduce solid foods, when to sleep train, formula, & breast pumps are just a few of the topics that have completely changed in the last several years. Holistic doulas and pediatricians adhere to the wisdom of the ages rather than the medically expedient liturgical standards. Mothers who are served by them are less stressed, and their babies develop strength and skills more rapidly.
These issues are not discussed in the public forum for fear of litigation. If someone steps out of the formally accepted norms they are at risk. So these practices, while rampant, are ignored. Many babies these days have been sleeping on their tummies since birth. These babies develop the abilities to roll over, sit up, and crawl on an average of three months earlier than babies who do not. On their tummies they strengthen their core muscles, neck muscles, and arms much earlier than babies who are on their backs for the majority of the time.
Babies who are allowed to sleep on their tummies sleep well earlier. They experience less gas as the pressure of bring on their tummies settles their digestive systems.
My Baby Prefers to Sleep on Tummy
My Baby Prefers to Sleep on Tummy – is this OK?
The majority of articles out there will tell you to place your baby on her back for the first year. The interesting thing is that the majority of babies will turn themselves over to their tummies as early as possible. Once babies realize they are able to choose their sleeping position they choose tummy down. In that position they feel more protected, more stable. You can put your six month old on her back, but the odds are when you check on her in the night she will have turned herself over. This fact causes parents untold stress. They are told babies can not breath on their tummies.
Remember the pendulum mentioned earlier? In the 80’s mothers would never have dreamed of placing babies on their backs. Those working in the baby care field remember those days and understand they will return. While you have to do what you believe to be best with your baby, be sure to look at all sides of this issue. Talk with your friends and their moms. Ask your own mother what she did with you. Happy mothering!!! These are the best years of your life!! Enjoy them thoroughly!!
Below find a formula to arrive at the amount of milk baby needs by his weight. This is pretty great!! It will help you know how much milk baby should be drinking each feeding.
Every new mom I have met, well almost every new mom, is concerned about the amount of breast milk she is producing. It comes with the territory. You are thinking these thoughts too, come on, admit it. When you breastfeed it is not possible to measure all that comes out. When baby is breastfeeding he simply devours it and you don’t know how much he drank.
How can this issue be resolved? When you pump you don’t produce the same way/amount as when baby suckles. So how on earth do you figure out how much he eats? Should you be worried about it? What are the indicators your baby has as much as he needs?
First, is he putting on weight? If his weight is climbing he is consuming enough to grow! Very Good. That is the goal. Sometimes there are those who pressure you to work on putting more weight on your child. We will talk about that in a minute.
Second, he has a reasonable happy disposition. He is calm, in general he is in a good mood. Again, great work. You are doing allot right if this is the case!!! Pat yourself on the back!!!
Third, he is pooping and peeing frequently. Don’t freak out on how often. As long as he is having wet diapers and poopy diapers consistently he is doing fine.
As mommy, no one knows your baby better than you. You would know if there were a problem with feeding. If 1, 2, &3 are all fine you have a baby who is doing well.
There are differing ideas about exactly what doing well means. If you are working with your doctor on a problem with your baby ask many questions. Be sure you understand the issues. Ask about what will resolve them and be certain .you understand the goals. How long does your doctor think it will take until they are resolved? Write down your questions through out the week. In the stress of the doctor’s office it is very easy to forget them.
Talk with your friends and others you know who have newborns. Do your own research on how quickly babies should gain weight. Sometimes parents are pressured to encourage weight gain for their babies. Unless there are other underlying issues a good goal is: Birth weight at 2 weeks of age, doubling birth weight at 6 months, and tripling birth weight at a year. Breastfeeding on demand will get you there easily. If you are encouraged to follow another pattern ask lots of questions. Run it by those who’s opinions you respect and have found to be true. Ask your mom how she did it with you. You turned out well, right?
One of my goals as a postpartum doula is to bring logic and peace to the parenting process. I encourage moms and dads to talk with those they know rather than researching on the Internet. The contrasting voices on the Internet will make you crazy. How do you find the best process for you and your baby? There will be time later on to compare and decide. Right now you are in survival mode. The voices of trusted friends and family will help you reach you goals.
A very common aliment of new mommies is the discomfort and embarrassment of hemorrhoids. Due to all the changes in a women’s body postpartum often these painful irritations erupt. Unless someone you know closely has dealt with these, chances are the topic won’t come up. So, lets take a minute and talk about this now.
How do you avoid hemorrhoids? The simplest way is with lots of ruff-age is your diet and great hydration. I will often tell new mom’s, “If you plan to breastfeed drink more water than you ever thought humanly possible!!!” It sounds funny, but I am making a very serious point. Hydration before delivery during pregnancy is important. It is vital to begin labor both well rested and hydrated. When breastfeeding hydration is even more important.
Your body has just created and expelled another human! This is something to be very proud of. It is not easy! It takes nine months, discomfort, sleep complications, cravings, expanding, and on and on. Everything changes in the process. Mentally preparing for these changes is imperative. Talking about all this ahead of time with women who have been through it is helpful! It directs you to things you would never have thought of and helps you navigate the pitfalls.
Taking in-person birth classes is a great way to prepare yourself. In a group setting thoughts will come up that you never considered. So great for you! Others have ideas for dealing with problems that open doors for you and your birth coach.
In addition, you come to realize what a big deal having a baby is!!! It is truly life changing. Which again is great!!!
Below find several articles on the treatment of hemorrhoids. Hopefully you will be able to avoid these all together through diet and hydration. If not, these homeopathic suggestions will get you started in helping you heal.
We’ve covered coconut oil’s many uses in other articles, but we’ve had several questions about how coconut oil can help with hemorrhoids. It’s a touchy, painful, itchy subject, but we are ready to tackle it. We’ll try not to get too graphic while still getting the job done.
Treating hemorrhoids often includes helping to control inflammation, discomfort and itching. This is where coconut oil comes in. With anti-inflammatory and analgesic properties, coconut oil has a lot of health benefits when applied topically or ingested orally to help treat hemorrhoids.
This article will help you understand how to use coconut oil for hemorrhoids and cover the following points:
What are hemorrhoids?
The benefits of using coconut oil
How to use coconut oil for hemorrhoids
Many people find hemorrhoids somewhat embarrassing and prefer to treat them from the comfort of their own home. Luckily, a majority of the time, hemorrhoids are easily treated using the following home remedies:
Hemorrhoid creams – Creams are a great way to reduce the pain, swelling and itching caused by hemorrhoids. You can get cream either from a physician or over-the-counter at most drug stores.
Sitz Bath – A sitz bath is when a person sits in water up to the hips, which relieves the discomfort and pain caused by hemorrhoids.
Apple Cider Vinegar – For a natural treatment, try soaking a cotton ball in apple cider vinegar and applying it to the hemorrhoid area.
Coconut Oil – Applying coconut oil to the hemorrhoids directly, rinsing and repeating not only helps relieve symptoms, but it can also cause the hemorrhoids to disappear in a few short days.
Cold Therapy – Cold therapy involves using a cold, clinically approved applicator that is stored in the freezer and applied to the swollen area.
When you think about it, how much of your time at home actually involves you and your little one? You, as Mommy or Daddy are the greatest influence in your child’s life, or are you? When this topic is researched often the actual time a parent spends with their child is shockingly short. A few minutes a day! How can this be?
Life is busy. Life with babies is busier. There is so much custodial work: changing diapers, cleaning up messes, preparing food, time working, and on and on. Take stock of your time. If baby is spending time at daycare your time with him is even less. Socialization is important, but these years of infancy and toddlerhood are your time to build your little human into a person of character and integrity. It is a major time commitment and hugely important to your child’s future life and yours.
Evaluate your schedule. How can you make the best of the time you have with your children? Putting the time in now to organize your lives will have a huge affect on future years. As children mature they incorporate the things they are taught into their habits. They watch you every moment and take on the way you spend time, deal with crisis, treat people, and relax. Are you modeling for them the way you want them to become? Are you living the life you saw your parents live? What do you want to change?
The articles below focus on the amazingly short amount of time we have to impact our children for good. They encourage you to think about this issue and make wise choices. Life with little ones is overwhelming. Don’t beat yourself up, but do consider how to make the best use of the moments you share with your kiddos. You won’t regret it!!!
New Parents Spend Less Time Looking After Kids Than They Think
According to a new study, couples who have recently become parents believe they spend more hours in childcare than they actually do. And couples who intend to divide up childcare equally before their kid is born rarely achieve that balance once the baby arrives.
The Average Amount Of Time Parents Spend With Their Kids A Day Is So Low
Updated: 01/04/2022 by Financial Samuari
Are you a parent who feels guilty for not spending enough time with your kids every day? Perhaps you are chasing money and prestige more than you should. Good news! The average amount of time parents spend with their kids a day is shockingly low!
The average amount of time university-educated moms spend with their children is 120 minutes a day in America. The average amount of time university-educated dads spend with their children is just 85 minutes a day.
An age-by-age guide to playing with your kid
If playing with your kid doesn’t come naturally to you, you’re not alone.
There’s a lot on a parent’s to-do list, and playing with your kid doesn’t always make it to the top. But play is important for your kid’s development, and getting down on their level to goof off for a few minutes can actually shave some of the stress off your day. It’s a win-win. We turned to parents and experts to discover the best ways to have fun with your kid, at every age.