This holiday season is different in many ways. As new parents you have many more decisions to make. This is a challenge, take your time. Consider what you want future holidays to look like for your immediate and extended families. Newborns travel well, so if you have just one little one, this may be the last holiday you travel to others for a while. Every family is different. Expectations are different. It is important to discuss these with those making the holiday decisions in your home. It is late in the season to begin these discussions, but important to do if you have not.
QUESTIONS TO ASK: 1. What are the important traditions in the family of your other half? 2. When do they open holiday gifts? 3. What foods do they enjoy on Christmas or Hanukah? 4. Do all family members show up on Christmas Day, or is that for nuclear families and the extended family shares time together another day? 5. How would the two of you like to spend the holiday?
Be flexible. Be willing to consider changing the way you have always done things to accommodate others. When baby is very small it is easier for you to bring them along. Once they are mobile it is more difficult. Talk with your extended family and find out what they would like to do. Everyone will not get to do what they wish, but everyone should feel like their feelings have been considered.
Think about what is the most important part of the holiday for you personally. If it can’t happen this holiday, plan a special time later in the year where you are able to experience it. Christmas in March is not totally crazy, especially if you can have a mock celebration with those you love.
I wish you a blessed celebration, what ever it looks like this year. Take precious moments to share your heart with those you love, even if it ends up being through FaceTime or Zoom. Reach out and encourage those in your circle. Everyone is a bit off this year. We all need a little extra time and understanding. Hugs and Kisses in every way (virtually). Enjoy the season, smells, tastes, and beauty!!! JUDY