There are a million and one articles on how to be a great mom, wife, daughter, and friend. They are wonderful tools in coping with life and responsibilities. The whole idea of being the best mom you can be is at the same time encouraging and terrifying. How do I know I am doing it right? Is there a measure? What if I blow it?
Every mom alive has dealt with these fears. There are no easy answers. However, the best place to start is with you. Are you at peace? Do you feel focused? Do you personally have resources to calm you when the uncertainty strikes?
What feeds your soul? As a doula, I encourage pregnant moms to think this one over. It is important, as you meet the needs of everyone else in your life, that you evaluate your own needs. Each of us has things that calm our spirits and bring us peace. What are these for you? Is it curling up in a chair with your favorite book? Maybe you enjoy a walk in the sunshine. Perhaps your favorite thing is talking with a friend or family member on the phone or in person. If you are spiritually inclined it might be reading your Bible, meditating on scripture, and praying. I have clients who love gardening. This connects them with nature, gives them something beautiful to look at, and allows them to participate the growing process.
Decide what meets this need in your life and schedule time for it each day. This may sound like a tall order, but it is vitally important to you being the best you can be. If you have a little something to look forward to each day it makes the hubbub of life more bearable. Taking care of yourself shows others you are of value. It helps them see the importance of being grounded and planning ahead.
Start practicing this routine now, even if you are newly pregnant. Developing this quiet time as a daily habit will help you find inner peace.
As always, your comments are greatly appreciated! JUDY