Tea vs Coffee, Health Benefits of Both

The age old discussion of tea vs coffee has been raging.  Those on each side of the argument have their opinions.  Science has found good things in both concoctions.   The bottom line is which do you like best?  This discussion surfaced in my research to discover whether hot tea is better for you than cold!

Enjoy,  JUDY

Below find several articles on the subject.  Please share any you have found helpful.


10 Benefits of Drinking Tea Over Coffee.    Chris Haigh

Writer, baker, co-host of “Good Evening Podcast” and “North By Nerdwest”.



Cold Tea Vs Hot Tea Health Benefits



13 Reasons Tea Is Good for You

Tea or coffee? Consider these health benefits of tea and the next time you have to choose, you may skip the joe

By Laura Newcomer | Greatist.com   Sept. 04, 2012



What Are the Benefits of Drinking Tea Hot Vs. Cold?

By Krista Sheehan




The Myth of Month 4 Sleep Regression

This is a controversial position, to say the least!  The buzz is: there is now and has always been 4 month sleep regression.  You can buy books, watch videos, and fret about it earnestly.  However, this is a new diagnosis.  No one heard of 4 month sleep regression until very recently.  Why?

My motto for mothering is “Don’t borrow trouble.”  This encourages one to look at the problem and deal with it rather than looking ahead for problems that might surface.  New parents are faced with so many new things they need to do to succeed.  It frustrates me that the infant supply industry would take advantage of these folks.  I would rather make things simple than complicate them.

If a baby is having sleeping trouble lets figure out the problem.  This gives new parents a feeling of success and hope.  It helps them see themselves as in control rather than victims of unwinable trials.

In order to evaluate this lets look at the circumstances surrounding most infants at four months of age.  If a mother is going to return to work this is usually when her maternity leave is over.  Perhaps there has been an illness in the nuclear family.  Maybe the family has had to switch living venues or locations.  How does this affect a baby?  How does it affect mommy and the rest of the family?  What other factors apply?

Mommy returning to work can be a huge emotional conflict for her.  If she has enjoyed her time with baby, passing this torch on to another is difficult.  This situation in her heart affects baby.  She has to interview others with the intent of having them replace her in caring for her child.  That is a tough thing to go through.  If she is unable to find suitable help she struggles.  There are the financial ramifications, concerns for the safety of her baby, scheduling issues, and on and on.  Just talking about it brings up stress.

There are not many ways in an infants life that things like this can be expressed.  Baby can’t talk about it even though he feels it.  Thus, baby, who may have been doing well in sleeping, finds it disrupted.  Understanding why this happens in your baby’s life gives you the ability to resolve it.  There are many options for streamlining such issues and helping mommy and baby find peace.

In an effort not to overwhelm this audience I will not approach other issues in this entry!  Please share you thoughts.  My hope is to serve and learn through this blog!

Articles on Sleep Regression to follow




FYI: Tomorrow, September 4th….

The Costco coupon booklet came out they week!  For those of you who use Huggies little snuggles diapers there is a $9 off deal!!!  The newborn package has 124 diapers and a package of wipes for $29.99 before the price savings!   This deal will run from September 4th through September 29th.  I encourage you to stock up, remember to purchase larger sizes for later!  If you do not have a Costco card, find a friend or relative who does.  They can purchase your diapers and you can give them cash or a check on the spot.

Happy Saving,  JUDY

Making the Best of the Chaos

As I observe more of life I encourage the families with whom I work to find peace in the business and chaos of raising little ones.  Life is messy, this is a given.  No matter how well we plan or consider “stuff happens”!!!!  We can not stay on top of everything.  The true magic to life is learning to find peace in the middle of the “crazy”.  For new mommies I encourage planning a few moments each day ‘just for you’.  It might be reading a chapter in you favorite book, a walk to the park, time on the phone with a dear friend, sister, relative, planting flowers, a bubble bath…..  What ever it is for you, plan it into your day!

The following words of Mother Theresa inspire thoughts of peace.  They encourage us to look past the disappointments in life and do our very best anyway!!   I pray they bless and encourage you on your path as much as they have me!

Best Wishes as you travel,   JUDY


Words of Wisdom for Life!

These words of wisdom are attributed to Mother Theresa                                                           an AlbanianIndian[4] Roman Catholic nun and missionary.

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.                                            Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.                                          Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends, and some genuine enemies.                                                                                                                                                 Be successful anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you                                                              Be honest and sincere anyway.

If you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.                                                  Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, others may be jealous.                                                         Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten.                                                                              Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it may never be enough.                                                                 Give your best anyway.

 In the final analysis, it is between you and God.                                                                              It was never between you and them anyway.



Bath Tub Safety For Your Toddler

Our family grew from one child to five in nine years.  Bath tub time was a hoot.  When you youngest was two I would adhere his bath tub chair to the bottom of the tub, fill the tub with warm water to his tummy, and let his siblings hop in and out to get clean.  Our youngest loved being the center of attention and the bath buddy.  Here are a few simple and creative ways to provide safety and comfort for you and your infant or toddler while bathing.  Hope you find them helpful!!!    JUDY

Never leave baby alone anywhere near a body of water!!!!!




Summer Infant My Bath Seat

Available at Target for $40


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This gismo adheres to the sides of the tub to hold baby in safely.  Put a few inches of warm water in the tub and baby has a fun time sitting in the chair playing with his toys.  (Never leave baby alone anywhere near a body of water)


Tummy Time is Great Developmental Tool for Your Baby!

Tummy Time is a must for the timely physical development of your baby.  You can begin tummy time as early as you wish.  It is not a negative.  It will help develop your baby’s core muscles, neck strength, and roll over capability.  Baby’s who practice tummy time consistently will roll over, sit up and crawl earlier than babies who do not.

You can put your immobile baby on her tummy on a sofa while you sit on the floor.  Your faces will be at the same level.  You can talk and laugh with baby, encouraging her to lift her head and enter act with you.  Quickly she will understand the game and participate.

Another way to have tummy time is for the two of you to lay down on the floor while baby is on her tummy on a blanket.  Again, you are at her level.  The two of you can participate together.  Baby will want to see you and will work on her neck muscles to lift her head.  So much fun!!                   JUDY

8 Tummy Time Tips for Your Baby

WebMD Feature.    By Barbara Brody.   Reviewed By Roy Benaroch, MD   WebMD Home  Health & Parenting Center  Health & Baby Center A Guide to Your Baby’s Sleep and Naps                                                               A Guide to Your Baby’s Sleep and Naps

As a new parent, you have no doubt been told by your doctor to always put your baby on his back every time he sleeps or naps. So you might not realize that it’s also important for your little one to spend some time on his belly while wide awake.

“Tummy time is when your infant lays on his (or) her stomach while supervised,” says Wendy Wallace, DO, a pediatrician at The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia Care Network.

If your baby is always on his back, he might get a flat spot on his head. That’s mostly a cosmetic issue, and one that tends to go away over time. But it might also mean that his head, neck, and shoulder muscles aren’t getting enough exercise. Tummy time is the fix.

When your baby is on his belly, he has to look up, left, and right to see people and objects. Moving his head around helps his skull round out, as well as strengthens his neck, shoulders, and trunk. Later on, these muscles will let him sit up. Eye muscles also get stronger as your little one looks around during tummy time.

Some tots seem to love playing on their tummies. Others might act like they can’t stand it. Keep trying! There are many things you can do to help your baby get comfortable and even have fun in this position.

  1. Go slow.   Some infants will only tolerate a few minutes of tummy time in the beginning. That’s perfectly normal.
  2. Move to his level.   “Tummy time can initially be scary because it’s new,” Wallace says. “Getting down on the ground and doing face-to-face encouragement will reassure a baby that he can do it and it’s OK.”
  3. Use plastic mirrors.   Your baby will probably lift his head to admire his reflection.
  4. Put the baby on your tummy or chest.   Newborns love to lay on a parent and gaze up at their face, Wallace says.
  5. Involve a sibling.   If you have an older child, encourage him to get down on the floor and play with his little brother or sister (while an adult is supervising).
  6. Work it into other activities.   Put your baby on his tummy while you dry him after a bath, smooth on lotion, or burp him (across your lap).
  7. Sing or tell a story.   He’ll raise his head and move around when he hears your voice. Remember to make eye contact, too.
  8. Offer extra support.   Make a bolster out of a thin towel or blanket. Roll it up, put it under your baby’s chest, and stretch his arms forward and over the roll. Be careful to keep his chin, mouth, and nose away from the bolster.

Ten Lessons I Want to Instill in My Kids

As life pushes ahead there are often things along the way we see as valuable.  I found this on Facebook this morning.  These are important lessons.  Save them somewhere for a refresher when you need it.  Your babies will be learning from you the moment they are born.  Keep what you believe to be significant close.  Live what you believe.   You will be glad you did.

Ten Lessons I Want to Instill in My Kids

If you made a mistake, apologize

If you are thankful, show it.

If you are confused, ask questions.

If you learn something, teach others.

If you are stuck, ask for help.

If you are wrong, fess up.

If you love someone, tell them.

If you trip, get back up.

If someone needs help, help them.

If you see wrong, take a stance.

One of Tim McGraws songs, ‘Humble and Kind’ fits this bill beautifully.  Find it on YouTube

Enjoy!                    JUDY

Exercising During Pregnancy

As with so much of life, pregnancy is simply another stage.  Pre-pregnancy and postpartum (after birth) are steps in the process.  If you plan to be pregnant, doing exercises to prepare your body is a wise move.  After your baby arrives continuing to stretch, do light walking, and stress reducing exercises are a great help.  Many community centers offer mommy and me classes that provide these kinds of exercises.  This kind of time with other new mommies proves to be wonderful both physically and emotionally.  You do not feel like you are the only one dealing with whatever today’s challenge turns out to be.  Life as a new mommy can be a wild ride, doulas, friends, and family should be a big part of the fun!

What most doctors will tell you is continue exercising at the level to which you are accustomed (through most of your pregnancy).  This means, if you are already a regular tennis player, continue, carefully.  I remember with my third pregnancy, it wasn’t that I was ready to stop playing tennis at eight months, it was that no one else wanted to play with me for fear of causing me to fall.  Do not take up a possibly injurious sport like tennis or biking after you become pregnant.  Leave that for later.  However, continue what you are already doing.  If you have questions talk with your OB, midwife, or physical therapist.  The goal is to keep moving.  Take the stairs instead of the elevator.  Go slow, but keep moving.  Walking is the best. Swimming is the same kind of opportunity, very low risk for injury, exercises your entire body, feels great!  Keep cool…..  enjoy!



Exercising During Pregnancy


Doing regular physical activity has health benefits during pregnancy and also helps to prepare the body for childbirth. However, it is important to modify or choose a suitable exercise program because pregnancy affects the body’s response to exercise.            Exercising during your pregnancy doesn’t have to be strenuous to be beneficial.                 Be sensible about the level of exercise that you do. Consult your OB, midwife, physiotherapist or healthcare professional to make sure the exercise routine is not harmful for you or your baby. If the pregnancy is complicated (such as expecting more than one baby, high blood pressure, heart disease, pre-eclampsia, or risk of premature births) it is best to talk with your specialist.

Exercise tips

Don’t exhaust yourself – a light to moderate exercise program should be the aim. You may need to slow down as your pregnancy progresses or if your maternity team advises you to. If in doubt, ask questions. As a general rule, a light to moderate level should allow you to hold a conversation as you exercise when pregnant. If you become breathless as you talk, then you’re probably exercising too strenuously.

If you weren’t active before you got pregnant, don’t suddenly take up strenuous exercise. If you start an aerobic exercise program, tell the instructor that you’re pregnant and build up say begin with no more than 15 minutes of continuous exercise, 3 times a week. Increase this gradually up to 5 30-minute sessions a week.                                          Remember that exercise doesn’t have to be strenuous to be beneficial.

Exercise tips when you’re pregnant:

  • Always warm up before exercising, and cool down afterwards.
  • Try to keep active on a daily basis; 30 minutes of walking each day can be enough, but if you can’t manage that, any amount is better than nothing. If you haven’t been active or are overweight, start with 3-4 days spread across the week.
  • Avoid any strenuous exercise in hot or humid weather.
  • Drink plenty of water and other fluids.
  • If you go to exercise classes, make sure your teacher is properly qualified, and knows that you’re pregnant and how many weeks pregnant you are.
  • You might like to try swimming because the water will support your increased weight. Some local swimming pools provide aquanatal classes with qualified instructors.
  • Walking is a great exercise — it is a moderate aerobic activity but will have minimal stress on your joints. Other good choices are swimming, low-impact aerobics and cycling on a stationary bike.

Exercises to avoid

Don’t lie flat on your back, particularly after 16 weeks, because the weight of your bump presses on the big blood vessels and can make you feel faint and reduce blood flow to your baby.

  • Don’t take part in contact sports where there’s a risk of being hit, such as kickboxing, football or rugby.
  • Don’t take part in horse riding, downhill skiing, ice hockey, gymnastics and cycling, because there’s a risk of falling.
  • Don’t go scuba-diving, because the baby has no protection against decompression sickness and gas embolism (gas bubbles in the bloodstream).
  • Don’t exercise at heights over 2,500m above sea level until you have acclimated. This is because you and your baby are at risk of altitude sickness (a decrease in oxygen).  If you live at a higher elevation you are already acclimated to the altitude.
  • Don’t do repetitive high impact exercise, or with lots of twists and turns, high stepping or sudden stops that cause joint discomfort.
  • Don’t do exercise where you get too hot. Your body’s temperature is slightly higher when you are pregnant. Intensive exercise may cause your core temperature to rise to an unsafe level for your baby. Limit your exercise to moderate intensity, drink plenty of water, wear lightweight clothing and only exercise in cool, well ventilated places (no spas or saunas).

Exercises for a fitter pregnancy

If you are pregnant, try to fit the exercises listed below into your daily routine. They will strengthen your muscles so that you can carry the extra weight of pregnancy. They’ll also make joints stronger, improve circulation, ease backacheand generally help you feel well.

Stomach-strengthening exercises:  (cat and cow yoga positions)

As your baby gets bigger, you may find that the hollow in your lower back increases and this can give you backache. These exercises strengthen stomach (abdominal) muscles and ease backache.  Use a towel or small pillow to support your back if needed:

  • Start in a box position (on all fours) with knees under hips, hands under shoulders, with fingers facing forward and abdominals lifted to keep your back straight.
  • Pull in your stomach muscles and raise your back up towards the ceiling, curling the trunk and allowing your head to relax gently forward. Don’t let your elbows lock.
  • Hold for a few seconds then slowly return to the box position.
  • Take care not to hollow your back; it should always return to a straight/neutral position. Do this slowly and rhythmically 10 times, making your muscles work hard and moving your back carefully.
  • Only move your back as far as you can comfortably.

Pelvic tilt exercises

Stand with your shoulders and bottom against a wall.

  • Keep your knees soft.
  • Pull your tummy button towards your spine, so that your back flattens against the wall; hold for four seconds and release.
  • Repeat up to 10 times.

Pelvic floor exercises help to strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor, which come under great strain in pregnancy and childbirth. The pelvic floor consists of layers of muscles that stretch like a supportive hammock from the pubic bone (in front) to the end of the backbone.

Read more on pelvic floor exercises.

Sources:Mayo Clinic (Pregnancy and exercise: Baby, let’s move!)

RANZCOG (Exercise during pregnancy)

The Royal Women’s Hospital  (Active pregnancy)




Recognizing Stress Points During Pregnancy

Stress and Pregnancy


Being pregnant can bring up a range of emotions for you, including feeling anxious or stressed, but this is completely normal. Stress is a normal reaction to a major change (such as pregnancy). In some cases, stress may even be good for people because it can push them to take action in the face of new challenges. However, too much stress can be overwhelming and could even lead to health problems both for you and your baby.

Make sure you take some time to do what you enjoy, such as reading, watching TV or your favorite hobby.

What can cause stress in pregnancy?

For some women, finding out that they are pregnant can be a stressful experience in itself. You could feel like you have lost control or don’t have enough resources to manage what you’ll be experiencing. Other things that could cause stress in pregnancy include:

  • waiting for the results of your antenatal tests
  • previous negative experiences with a pregnancy, birth or motherhood such as a miscarriageor death of a baby
  • having a pregnancy that is unplanned
  • dealing with the physical changes of pregnancy
  • having a complicated pregnancy
  • being a single parentor teenagerand wondering how you will cope
  • experiencing difficulties in your relationship, which could include family violence
  • being overloaded with advice from other people
  • experiencing financial difficulties
  • moving house
  • changes in your job
  • grief, such as a death in the family
  • drug and alcohol problems
  • past anxiety, depression or other mental illness

If more than one of the above are happening to you at the same time, you could experience even more stress.

How can stress affect my baby and me?

Chronic (ongoing) stress can affect your own health or wellbeing, and can include experiencing:

  • headaches
  • problems sleeping
  • fast breathing and a racing pulse
  • obsessive thoughts
  • worry or anxiety
  • anger
  • eating problems (too much or too little food, or the wrong types of food)
  • trouble relaxing or winding down

Chronic stress could also cause problems for your baby. These can include effects on your unborn baby’s growth and the length of gestation (your pregnancy). They can also increase the risk of problems in your baby’s future physical and mental development, as well as behavioural issuesin childhood.

Reducing stress while you are pregnant

It’s important to look after your mental wellbeingduring pregnancy, just as it’s important to look after your physical health. When you are feeling well, content and happy, you are better able to manage stress. When your stress is managed, it is not likely to have any serious effects on you or your baby.

To reduce stress, you could try the following:

  • Pay attention to the triggers that make you stressed and notice what happens when you feel stressed.
  • Try to slow down, rest and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
  • Eat a healthy, well-balanced diet to help keep you and your baby healthy.
  • Talk to someone you trust about your concerns and how you’re feeling.
  • Take part in regular exercise, suitable for pregnancy.
  • Do yoga, meditation, breathing, or relaxation through classes, or using apps, videos or podcasts.
  • Engage in a favourite distraction activity such as reading, watching TV or a hobby.
  • Accept people’s offers to help you.
  • Spend time with people who make you feel calm and ask for help when you need it.

Further help

If you need more help to manage your stress, you can contact:

Sometimes the health professionalsyou talk with may not have enough time to answer all of your questions or talk through all of your concerns. If you need to discuss any issues further, call Pregnancy, Birth and Baby on 1800 882 436 to speak to a maternal child health nurse for advice and support.

Sources:American Pregnancy Association(How to treat stress naturally)

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Australian Family Physician(Chronic stress)

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beyondblue(What to expect during pregnancy)

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Centre for Community Child Health(The First Thousand Days – an evidence paper)

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Centre of Perinatal Excellence(Stress in pregnancy)

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Centre of Perinatal Excellence(Relaxation strategies in pregnancy)

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Raising Children Network(Stress and pregnancy)

Please Consider Not Changing Your Residence In The Last Trimester of Your Pregnancy!!!

Over the past year I have worked with several new mommies who delivered weeks or even months before their due dates!  For those of us in the infant industry, due dates are a fluid thing anyway.  A due date is a guess as to when your baby is due.  There is the formula derived from when you last menstruated, etc., but for the most part a due date is simply a guess.  Two weeks either side is normal.  Going much past two weeks after your due date is frowned upon because your placenta and amniotic sack begin to deteriorate.  Yet, I have a close friend who went two weeks over with each of her pregnancies. Her average pregnancy is forty-two weeks. Two weeks early is not a big deal, in 99% of cases.

Anyway, as I started to say, several of the families I worked with over the past year, who delivered several weeks early, had one thing in common:  They had recently changed their residence.  One was due to a flood in their home, others simply chose to change their domicile.  They wanted more room, to be closer to family, etc.

My take on the matter:  Moving is very high on the psychological stress table. #3 in the attached studies.  We rise to the occasion, doing what we need to do to get the job done, without realizing how greatly we are taxing ourselves.  The exhaustion, decisions, confusion, and on and on take way more out of us than we realize.

When you are pregnant you are in a compromised state.  This does not mean you are weak or sick, however you are more vulnerable in many ways.  You are building another human being.  This other being takes what they need from you physically.  They have to in order to survive.  Emotionally you are gearing up for the biggest change in your life; total responsibility for another human. Everything in your life is affected.  It is huge.  To add more stress to this simply is not wise.

Streamline your life when you are pregnant.  When planning  to become pregnant put other major life changes on hold.  Focus on this one.  Enjoy your pregnancy, rest when you are able, remove as much stress as possible for the mix.

There will be times when pregnant women have no control over their move.  It will just have to happen, ie. the family with the flood in their home, they had to move out for repairs, an essential job change, an emergency, etc.   If this is you, do all you can to find peace.  Hire others to lift boxes, etc.  Do what ever you are able to delegate.  Leave the unnecessary decisions and jobs until after your baby arrives.  For a planner like me this sounds excruciating, so I can totally relate with the difficulty.  However, delivering too early brings another whole set of difficulties, some even life threatening.  You are choosing the lesser of two evils.  Choose well.


Stress Evaluation Tools

The Top 5 Most Stressful Life Events


Everyone experiences stress, but many don’t know how to manage it. When major life stressors come up, it’s important to handle them properly to avoid getting hurt. The top five most stressful life events include:

  • Death of a loved one
  • Divorce
  • Moving
  • Major illness or injury
  • Job loss

It might feel like stress is an emotional issue – something that lives strictly inside your head. But stress can become a physical issue as well, especially when dealing with the most stressful things in life.


Dartmouth University stress affecters

{These are not specifically for pregnancy.  However, they are good indicators of what adds stress to our lives.  Don’t freak out, just look over the list and be aware of which issues are obvious in your life.  Take steps to remove those that are unnecessary. Enjoy your pregnancy and the first year of your baby’s life.  Leave the stressors for later on.}


Life Change Index Scale (The Stress Test)


Impact Score


My Score

Death of spouse




Marital Separation


Jail Term


Death of close family member


Personal injury or illness




Fired at work


Marital reconciliation




Change in health of family member




Sex difficulties


Gain of a new family member


Business readjustment


Change in financial state


Death of a close friend


Change to a different line of work


Change in number of arguments with spouse


Mortgage over $20,000


Foreclosure of mortgage or loan


Change in responsibilities at work


Son or daughter leaving home


Trouble with in laws


Outstanding personal achievement


Spouse begins or stop work


Begin or end school


Change in living conditions


Revisions of personal habits


Trouble with boss


Change in work hours or conditions


Change in residence


Change in schools


Change in recreations


Change in church activities


Change in social activities


Mortgage or loan less than $20,000


Change in sleeping habits


Change in number of family get-togethers


Change in eating habits




Christmas approaching


Minor violation of the law



Directions If an event mentioned above has occurred in the past year, or is expected in the near future, copy the number in the score column. If the event has occurred or is expected to occur more than once, multiply this number by the frequency of the event.


Scoring The Life Change Index

The body is a finely timed instrument that does not like surprises. Any sudden change stimuli which affects the body, or the reordering of important routines that the body become used to, can cause needless stress, throwing your whole physical being into turmoil.

The previous chart will give you some idea of how to informally score yourself on Social Readjustment Scale. Since being healthy is the optimum state you want to achieve, being sick is the state of being you most want to avoid.


Life Change Units.                                   300+;                      150-299;                   less than 150

Likelihood Of Illness In Near Future: about 80 percent, about 50 percent,  about 30 percent,

The higher your life change score, the harder you have to work to get yourself back into a state of mental and physical good health.

T.H.Holmes and T.H. Rahe. “The Social Readjustment Rating Scale,” Journal of Psychosomatic Research. 11:213, 1967.