Don’t Try To Do This Alone…….

Becoming a mother is the greatest life change you will ever experience!!!  When you marry, you take on a new roommate, friend, partner.  It is an enormous change in your life!!  You are no longer an individual, you are part of a team.  You go places together, make decisions together, consider the thoughts and feelings of the other.  However this other person can dress himself, feed himself, make choices and express himself.  When you become a parent you do not have these luxuries!

When you become a parent you have responsibility for the very survival of an innocent helpless individual!  This baby can do literally nothing for herself!!!!!  You are her only option!  In addition, you are recovering from nine months of growing another human.  You are healing from labor, perhaps major surgery,  you are learning a New Normal.  Everything in your life has changed!

YOU NEED HELP!!!!  In ages past family has come in to support new families.  Grandmas and aunties encourage Mommy.  They have ‘been there, done that’ and bring a wealth of experience to the table.  Dads and uncles help new Fathers navigate the path they are on, helping Mommy, learning to comfort and support.

In our urbanized culture this wealth of information and support is sometimes lacking.  Thus, the insurgence of the Postpartum Doula Industry!!!  Women who have ‘been there done that’ and want to assist you in smoothing the way to success.


Postpartum Doulas Are The Support System All New Mothers Need

Heather Marcoux Apr 02, 2019

When we look back through history it is rare to find cultures where a mother’s extended family and community did not support her during the perinatal period, but the modern emphasis on independence and individualism has changed that.

Becoming a mother is the greatest change you will ever make.

Many of us do not have a built-in social support network to help us in those difficult days of early motherhood. A new mom in 2019 may find her close relatives live on the other side of the country, and she doesn’t know her neighbor’s names. Or, she may be surrounded by people who would love to support her—but simply don’t have the experience or time to be of service to her.

This is why we need more postpartum doulas and why more women should have access to them.

Like birth doulas, who help a mother during birth, postpartum doulas aim to empower and support mothers during a vulnerable time in their lives.

They are part lactation consultant, part baby-whisperer, part parenting coach and part therapist, and they can help new parents feel less alone and more confident as their lives change so drastically. But getting a postpartum doula to help you through the fourth trimester can be expensive. As Today recently reported, in America, the cost of hiring a doula “varies from state to state and most people pay out of pocket.” It can be thousands of dollars, a cost too high for many families.

But in America and other western nations where mothers no longer have that built-in community, women are hoping to make doula services more accessible, and suggest we need to stop acting like hiring a doula is akin to hiring a housekeeper and incorporate the service into health care funding. “It seems like a luxury, but for many cultures it [postnatal care] was just a necessity, and I think we need to start looking at it like that too,” Shelley McClure, a postnatal doula and educator in Australia tells ABC News.

One of McClure’s clients, Taycee-Lee Jones, decided to pay for a postpartum doula after welcoming her fourth baby. Paying McClure to help her wasn’t a luxury. It was what she needed to do to survive as her partner had to go back to work quickly. “We don’t have that support that we used to have from our community. We don’t have sisters and aunties all coming to provide that support,” she says. “Shelley as a postpartum doula, came around, brought food, did my dishes, gave me a foot rub, checked in with how I was doing,” she explains, suggesting that the kind of in-home care she received from Shelley could help prevent postpartum depression and should be standard.

Shannon Sproule, a postpartum doula with Full Circle Birth Collective in Edmonton, Canada, agrees. She tells Global News her packages start at $120 for one four-hour session of in-home postpartum care. She recognizes that not everyone can afford that, and believed the future of postpartum care needs to include access to doulas through public programs.

Third Installation of Nourishing Yourself Suggestions

This is the final segment of ideas to start your 2020 with a stable and well thought out plan. Please look over the previous two blog entries to read the entire article.  No one will want to incorporate all these ideas.  Have fun with them and see which ones you like best!!!


30 Ideas to Nourish Your Life

by : CATHERINE BEARD             

Goals To Nourish Your Soul

Ah, the soul (also referred to as the spirit). I’m sure it means something different to everyone, but I like to think of it as everything that makes up who you are aside from your mind and body. It could involve your relationships, religion, job, hobbies, interests, etc.  However you define the soul, it’s vital that you take care of it and find what makes you happiest. Here are 10 ideas to help nourish your soul:


Make sleep a priority by creating your own night routine using this post and sticking to it for a whole month. Going to bed early doesn’t make you a grandma, okay? Give yourself permission to rest.


See what your hometown and the surrounding area has to offer by visiting two places you’ve never been before. Who says you have to take a plane to travel?


Whether you want to start learning a new language or something creative like calligraphy, make some time to challenge your brain in a new way. Brit + Co has an extensive selection of creative workshops you can take online (think lettering, photography, and weaving).


If you’ve been meaning to declutter your home for months, take the plunge and get it done with this plan I put together! By decluttering, you can make your space more relaxing and inviting so that you have one less thing that stresses you out!


In order to save money and get a little wiser with your spending, try budgeting out your money for the month and keeping your cash in envelopes. You’ll start to be more conscious of how you spend your paychecks, and your bank account is going to thank you! Check out Dave Ramsey’s guide to getting started.


Whether it’s a task that’s just been nagging at your forever, or something bigger that you’ve been wanting to start, just get started! Break it out into 30 small chunks and do one task each day throughout the month.


And by this I mean your hair! Try giving your locks a break for a month without heat styling. You’ll save time in the morning and get your hair back into a healthier state.


Give back to your community by volunteering – even for just a day! It’ll make you feel good, and you’ll be doing a whole lot of good for others. Double whammy!


I’m sure we all have someone we’ve been meaning to get in touch with for a while, whether that be your grandma or an old friend from school (or maybe even a blogger you want to collaborate with). Set yourself a goal to finally connect with them and ask them some genuinely thoughtful questions.


If you’re tired of feeling like you have nothing to wear or you just feel overwhelmed by your closet, why not start a capsule wardrobe? It’s basically a way to ensure that every item in your closet goes with the rest of your clothes so you always have something to wear (and it’ll take you less time to get ready in the morning).






Second Installation of ‘Nourish Yourself” Info.

This article is fantastic.  It some with thirty simple ideas for improving your everyday life.  Rather than present all thirty at once, I chose to break it up in to three installments. this one covers enjoyable ways to nourish yourself physically.  Enjoy and let me know what you think.


                       30 Ideas to Nourish Your Life

by : CATHERINE BEARD              

Goals To Nourish Your Body

We all know how important exercise is, but finding the motivation and time to actually do it is always a struggle. If you break this larger goal into smaller chunks, you’ll find it much easier to find something that works for you and stick to it. Here are 10 ways to nourish your body:


Going for a walk after dinner was probably one of my favorite goals that I set for myself. It really helps to reset your brain, let your food digest, and get a nice healthy dose of fresh air before returning back to your desk or couch.


I’ve been trying to cut out coffee for so long now because I really don’t think it agrees with my body (but I love the taste and smell, y’know?). If you feel like it’s making you dehydrated and it’s breaking your bank account, try switching your usual coffee or soda for a cup of tea.


If you struggle to squeeze in gym time (or just don’t have the motivation), tell yourself you only have to work out for 10 minutes. That way, you’re more likely to just get started because it doesn’t seem like a huge commitment. You’ll probably even keep going for longer than 10 minutes once you’re over the initial hurdle of getting started.


I truly envy anyone who manages to get their daily quota of vegetables in. Fruit is easy enough for me, but I really struggle when it comes to veggies! Decide how many portions you’d like to eat per day, and do a little bit of Pinterest searching for recipes that incorporate veggies (or better yet, ones where you can’t even tell there are veggies in them).


Yoga with Adriene put together an epic 30-day yoga plan that’s perfect for any level of yogi. If you’ve been meaning to try yoga or want to start doing it more regularly, I highly recommend taking the challenge.


If you’re tired of having nothing to eat or spending all of your money on fast food, try setting yourself a goal to meal prep each week for a month (here’s my how-to guide). It’ll save you a whole bunch of time, and you’re much more likely to make healthy choices.


Consistency is really important when it comes to your health, and having a workout plan is going to help you stay on track and get you closer to meeting your overall wellness goals. Try following this plan I used during the summer (includes a free workout calendar)!


There are so many benefits to drinking water aside from the fact that your body needs it to survive. Staying hydrated keeps your brain alert and makes your skin glow, yo! Vow to keep a water bottle with you at all times for a month, and see how much better you feel from all of that goodness.


Want to work on your buns and get a Beyoncé booty? Try this 30-day squat challenge from PopSugar!


If you’re really struggling to exercise regularly, maybe you need to try a new kind of exercise. There’s a whole world out there beyond the gym! Challenge yourself to try a new form of exercise during the month. You could try pilateskickboxing, crossfit, karate, zumbahip hop, barre…the possibilities are endless!



Have a Wonderful Valentines Day!!!!!

Beautiful Valentines Day quotes following……………………….

Baby yourself today!  Take a walk in the sunshine.  (Yes, I live in Southern California.  And, yes, that beautiful sun is shining!!  Ha!  Ha!).  Take your precious little one out and treat yourself to a yummy cup of coffee.  Sit in a park and enjoy your lunch!  There are a million and and one fun inexpensive ways to pat yourself on the back and enjoy today.

If you live somewhere where being out of doors is not possible enjoy a walk in a heated mall!  Find an indoor restaurant and have a treat.  For many years the only restaurants I frequented were fast food restaurants with indoor play yards.  Hay, you do what you gotta do!  There will be years of having lovely lunches with your friends once your kiddos are otherwise occupied.  Figure out fun things to do with them now!

Make a special dinner for you and your Honey.  Share it after the little one/ones are in bed.  Skip purchasing flowers, they are way to expensive because of the holiday.  Put a photo of the two of you on the table.  A reminder that the two of you are the foundation for this beautiful family you created.  Share a bubble bath, cup of tea by the fire, what ever you enjoy most.  Just a few moments of special time will confirm to you both how special you are to each other.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY from my home to yours!!!

“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” – Franklin P. Jones, Engineer

“Grow old with me! The best is yet to be.” – Robert Browning, Poet

“It is astonishing how little one feels alone when one loves.” – John Bulwer, Physician

“Love is the greatest refreshment in life.” – Pablo Picasso, Artist

“Where there is love, there is life.” – Mahatma Ghandi, Civil Rights Leader

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller, Author

“There are never enough I Love You’s.” – Lenny Bruce, Comedian

“Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever.” – Audre Lorde, Civil Rights Activist

“Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence.” – Vincent van Gogh, Artist

“A true lover always feels in debt to the one he loves.” – Ralph W. Sockman, Pastor

“Loving is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Poet

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu, Philosopher

“The heart has its reasons, which reason knows not.” – Blaise Pascal, Mathematician

Fun Valentines Quotes……………………

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.” – Charles M. Schulz, Cartoonist

“True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.” – Erich Segal, Author

“I love Mickey Mouse more than any woman I have ever known.” – Walt Disney, Animator

“I want a man who’s kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a millionaire?” – Zsa Zsa Gabor, Actress

“It’s better to have loved and lost than to have to do forty pounds of laundry a week.” – Laurence J. Peter, Educator

“Without Valentine’s Day, February would be…well, January.” – Jim Gaffigan, Comedian

“Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” – James Thurber, Cartoonist

Have so much fun today!!  I wish you the very best!  JUDY


30 Ideas to Nourish Your Life

The following information is really exciting!  It talks about easy practical ways to take hold of your life and improve it.  There are thirty ideas shared.  I am breaking them down into groups of ten to make them more palatable.  Thirty sounds a bit overwhelming!!!

30 Ideas to Nourish Your Life

by : CATHERINE BEARD           

I’m all about self-development and setting small goals in order to achieve larger ones, and even though I didn’t plan this either, I realized that I’ve been setting myself goals that fall into one of three categories: mind goals, body goals, and soul goals (look, I rhymed!).

By setting myself mini-goals for 30 days, I’ve given myself the opportunity to challenge myself, create new habits, and try things I’ve always wanted to but felt I haven’t had the time. Although I haven’t maintained all of the habits I’ve tried to create, this process has helped me figure out what’s actually important for me to do regularly in order to stay sane.

Because I know people are always looking for examples of personal goals, I thought I’d round up the goals I’ve set for myself over the past year with a few extras thrown in that can help nourish your entire being.

Whether you want to start setting monthly goals or stick to one goal at a time, this list is sure to give you some ideas if you’re wondering what to start working on next!

P.S. Even if you’re not into the whole goal thing, you’re going to find tons of tips and ideas to keep you healthy and improve your well-being.

Goals To Nourish Your Mind

We often get caught up in our to-do lists and worry how we’re going to get everything done, so it’s important to give your brain some time to breathe. After all, if your brain isn’t working correctly, nothing is going to work correctly! Here are 10 things you can do to nourish your mind:


Take one day of the week (I chose Saturday) to stay completely offline and away from your computer.


Meditation can be intimidating and some people think it will be a little too hippie-ish for them, but even taking five minutes out of your day to sit and do nothing can really help improve your mood. Here are 5 things that helped me start meditating.


We all probably wish we read a little more, right? Try reading 10 pages in the morning and 10 pages at night, and you’ll be finishing books in no time!


If I’m having one of those days where my brain just won’t shut off, I’ve found journaling to be super relaxing. It also helps you find clarity in difficult situations and puts you more in tune with what’s really going on. Even though you may not think you have anything to write, you’d be surprised at what happens once you actually open up a notebook.


I got into the habit of snoozing basically every time my alarm went off in the morning, so I challenged myself to get up right away. Even though you may want that extra bit of time in bed, you’ll feel a lot less groggy if you just get up.


Most of us stare at screens all day, and then we come home and stare at screens some more. Try switching it up and get the most out of your free time with these ideas for relaxing after work (and no, they don’t include Netflix).


Either in the morning or before bed, write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for. You’ll start to find joy in the little things and be more appreciative despite any challenges you might be facing. Here’s a gratitude journal to get you started.


Yes, I’m talkin’ about keeping only one tab open on your browser for a whole month. Check out how I actually survived this challenge here.


If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed from all of the information being thrown at you online and in the news, I put together a 7-day media detox challenge to help you slowly reduce the amount of time you spend consuming information.


Some people might not think this is much of a goal, but there are so many of us who genuinely forget to look after ourselves. So schedule a spa day (or pamper yourself at home), book yourself into a hotel room, or just spend an entire day doing something you love. Treat your self!

Your Success in 2020

Hay, it is February.  2020 is in full swing.  I came across some interesting goal setting ideas.  In researching the topic I came across fun tools, overwhelmingly complicated articles, and some that I couldn’t even understand.  Of course, I opted for the fun ones!!  One of my close friends absolutely shuts down when anyone mentions “Goals”.  She must have had a disappointing experience as a child.  Anyway, life is about moving ahead and finding joy in what we do.  Often we do not move ahead unless we consider how to do so.  This is my uncomplicated definition of goals.

What is a SMART Goal?

Powerful Goal-Setting Tips for Creating Your Extraordinary Life

No matter what you call your goals, they must be specific and measurable. One of the best methods of goal-setting is setting SMART Goals. Ensure that your goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bounded. You have a bigger chance of achieving SMART goals than those that are vague and too broad or don’t have a specific target date for completion.

S- Specific

When goal-setting, your goal must be very clear and defined not only to you but to others as well. It should be precise, detailed, and capable of answering questions instead of creating more.

M- Measurable

Include dates, exact financial numbers, and amounts in your goal. Your goal shouldn’t be, “Make more money,”it should state a specific amount, by a specific time. “I will make $10,000 extra dollars by January 1st, 2018.”If the goal is broken down into steps, each step must be measurable, as well.

A- Attainable

Your goal must be achievable. You should be able to accomplish it within the constraints of time, money, environment, as well as your skills and abilities and other important factors. I do, however, recommend you set a couple of goals for yourself that I call “breakthrough goals” or a goal that is really going to push you to attain.

R- Realistic

Goals should be in line with the direction that you’re heading in life. Keep your goals in line with your true purpose. Don’t waste time with unrealistic goals.

T- Time-Bounded

Always set specific deadlines for the completion of your goal. Creating a target date of completion creates accountability and gives you more motivation. If you don’t achieve your goal by your specific date, that’s ok, adjust and keep moving forward. Always set a date to your goals.