Gratitude is a divine emotion that never does harm but always does so much good.

  1. Make gratitude part of your everyday routine.

Practicing gratitude will pave you the way to happiness and success in life. Moreover, it will help you fall in love with the life you already have. And most importantly, it will make you realize that you don’t need to wait for something magical to happen, or for something to be taken away from you, to appreciate the here and now. You can start practicing gratitude by writing down a few things you are thankful for every day, or just thinking about how lucky you are to be alive the moment you wake up every morning. It takes a little effort, but it might change your life forever. A grateful mind is a happy mind.

  1. Acknowledge the moment.

Being present and truly living in the moment is what we’re really missing out on. But if you just stop and look around you, you will see there are so many amazing things happening before your eyes. All you have to do is acknowledge them. Once you start paying attention to all the little magical things around you, you will realize how much you’ve been missing out on all this time. The key is to learn how to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had.

  1. Smile even if there’s nothing to smile about.

A smile is the best accessory you can possibly possess. It lifts you up and makes you look incredibly gorgeous. When you’re feeling down, and nothing seems to go right, instead of listening to sad songs, try putting on a wide smile. Think about all the things you should be thankful for, and smile as much as you can. It’s a simple thing to do, but it will surely ease your mind and help you get through your struggles.

  1. Have a quality inner monologue.

No, this doesn’t mean to isolate yourself and go crazy. This means to take a step back and ask yourself valuable questions about where you are in life and what makes your existence so amazing. Search for ways to improve your life by improving yourself as a human being first. Ask yourself what can you do to make your favorite people happy. Figure out what truly matters in your life and learn how to cherish it. Make this inner monologue count.

  1. Stop comparing yourself to other people

ntntNext time you start comparing yourself to someone else, remember this: The grass isn’t greener on the other side. It’s greener where you water it. Looking at what your friend has and being envious and angry that you don’t have it is only making you feel unsatisfied and pettish. You don’t need such kind of negative energy around you. There are too many people in this world having less than you, so you might as well be grateful for the things you have instead of beating yourself up for what you don’t.

  1. Let go of negativity.

In order to be appreciative of the life you already have, you first need to let go of all the hatred and bitterness in your mind. All these negative thoughts and emotions are weighing you down while consuming all of your energy. There is no place for such troublesome vibes in your orbit. Forgive the people that hurt you, stop blaming the circumstances you could never control, and move on. Talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems.

  1. Be true to yourself.

Never forget to be grateful for yourself too. Always stay true to your beliefs, and be there for yourself when times get rough. No one knows you better than your own self. Know that as long as you believe in yourself, and focus your energy on appreciating life, amazing things are coming your way.

Every single heartbeat you have is a precious gift you need to cherish. After all, you never know when your heart will beat for the very last time. So, do the things that make your soul shine, love the people in your circle as much as you can, and make every little moment count. In the blink of an eye, it could all be taken away. So be grateful. Always.

Purging Is Conquering Procrastination!!!

Unless you have recently moved there are no doubt neglected places in your home, garage, or backyard filled with junk!  For some of us it could even be our cars!  You know, those forgotten bags in the back of you trunk!  You can not imagine how good it feels when you have purged the clutter!  I encourage you to take a little time and assess your stuff.  This list gives you some great ideas on where to start.  Disposing of your unneeded stuff will feel marvelous!  This can be your ‘Spring Cleaning’.  Pass on the things you no longer need.  You will be so happy you did so!

Happy cleaning,  JUDY


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Working Through Your Frustration

At this time the world is dealing with many unknowns.  The future is uncertain.  If you are due to have your baby soon there are many questions floating around in your head.  The premier hospital in our area is only allowing one person into the delivery room with laboring women.  No longer are they allowed to have one person for part of their labor and another later.  One person is all that is permitted.  Of course this is to limit the possibility of COVID 19 being introduced into the hospital.  This means other family members and friends can not participate.  Very disappointing if you had other plans.

This will be short lived.  COVID 19 will diminish and life will move on.  I am sorry you will be impacted by this virus in this manner.  My greatest concern for you is that you can come to grips with this and find success.  The situation is not perfect.  However, once you have delivered your baby and been released from the hospital others can be with you.  The extra precautions at this time are for your protection despite their inconvenience.

Below find a chart talking about your personal response to this crisis.  Think about where you are in the process.  Finding peace in you own heart regarding these matters is the most important thing.  As you welcome you’re baby you want to be in a healthy state of mind.

Hugs and Kisses on your Journey,  JUDY

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Thoughts For Your Birth Experience

As you think about the birth of your baby what comes to mind?  There are many different choices and options.  Most in America decide to deliver their babies in hospitals.  There are a ton of reasons why this is the primary choice:  safety, resources available, doctor’s preference…..  If your baby is born in a hospital and there are any extenuating circumstances you are in the best place to provide care.  Yet, there are negative points to delivering in a hospital:  more types of infection present, the thought that you might be forced into medical procedures you prefer not to go through, the rules at the hospital, etc.

Another possibility is a birthing center.  Such a center is available to provide less stringent rules and a less regimented environment.  Because only baby deliveries happen in these places there is less opportunity for crossover germs and the staff is trained in less institutional measures.  A midwife oversees the delivery and the client has more input in the process.  A back up hospital is selected in case there is a need.

A third option is a home birth.  A midwife would be present for labor and delivery.  Dad and mom have met with and become comfortable with the midwife they choose.  They ask questions and prepare everything as the midwife suggests.  Some insurance companies shy away from home births.  Before you decide which birth experience you wish, check with your insurance company to see which they cover.

For any of these birth options I strongly suggest you have an advocate with you.  This is someone who knows you well.  A person with whom you have discussed your thoughts and wishes for your birth experience.  It is someone you trust to make decisions for you when you are in labor and not thinking clearly.  It is best if this advocate is not your birth partner or spouse.   In the long shot that there are difficult decisions to make you want your advocate to be someone who has ‘been there done that’.  In other words, someone who has delivered a baby or two themselves.  This person understands your thoughts and desires and is strong enough to represent your wishes to the medical staff present.  You and your partner are cognoscente and will make any major decisions.  This person will back you up and make things clear both to you and for you.  Certified birth doulas are specifically trained to do this.

If you have chosen to deliver at a hospital or a birthing center medical staff will be present.  You could bring a qualified friend or a birth doula with you.  A certified birth doula is trained to help you though the process of birth.  She will meet you during your pregnancy and talk through the preparation and birth process with you.  She will help you make choices for your birth plan and process ahead of time.

If you have chosen to deliver at home you will need to arrange for a mid-wife.  In my home state of California it is required by law that you have either a licensed midwife or a medical doctor at your delivery.  Other states may have other possibilities but I recommend you have either of these professionals with you for your protection and your baby’s.  Both an MD and a mid-wife will have a back up hospital ready incase there is a need.  Both are professionally trained to deliver babies and both should have extensive experience doing so.  Both an MD and a midwife will monitor your pregnancy, testing for problems and measuring the growth of your baby.  They will help you learn the possible due date of your baby and discuss delivery options with you.

Hopefully this has not been overwhelming for you.  If you are early in your pregnancy you need to be monitored by an Obstetrician or mid-wife for your protection.  No matter which mode of delivery you select walking through your pregnancy with a medically trained individual is vital.  I am happy to help you select such a professional if you need suggestions.






Understanding What You Can Control And What You Can Not

The diagram below looks at different parts of our lives and differentiates between those we can control and those we can not.   This is a healthy exercise. Worrying about things over which we have no control is a waste of time.  We have no control over which supplies the stores will have today.  Loosing sleep over this, fretting over it, focusing on it will only make you unhappy.  You have no control over how long the ‘shelter in place’ rules will apply or how others will respond.

What do you control?  You control your own response.  Are you at peace?  Are you kind to those around you, helping them figure out ways to meet their needs?  Thinking on the things you are able to impact is empowering.  It helps you realize you are not at the mercy of circumstances.  Focusing on the needs of others does the same thing.

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Two Very Simple Ways to Avoid the Corona Virus

Below is a link to an interview with a bio-chemist mom.  She is military trained in biological warfare, with a Masters Degree and working on a PhD.  Her ideas are very practical and simple.

I encourage  you to listen to the 50 minute interview.  She has many ideas that will help you in your daily life to increase your immunities and protect those you love.

Her practical suggestions:

  1.  Increase you body heat.  The Corona virus is very susceptible to heat.  Keep your body heat at a normal rate and you will kill the virus before it has the opportunity to invade your system.  It dies around 85* Fahrenheit.  If you are warm you body temperature should be 98.6* F.  Wear a scarf to keep your neck warm.  Keep doors and windows closed at home.  Turn off fans.  When you go out wear a hat to protect your ears.  Drink hot water continually.
  2. Eliminate all sugar until the threat subsidies.  Any kind of sugar diminishes your body’s natural immunities.   Wines, starches, processed sugars, ice cream, sodas, fruit, candy, cookies, pastries, etc. should be avoided during this time.


Listen to this podcast.  You will learn her reasoning behind these ideas.  It will help you to realize you can do things to help your family.  You will feel empowered and it will relieve many of the fears you are experiencing.



Keeping It Light!!!

Just for the fun of it I am sharing the MEM”S and photos that have given me the greatest laughs!  You have all seen them.  The quotes on social media that hit your funny bone!  As we sink into the insanity that has become our daily existence (in Orange County we are under ‘shelter in place’ due to COVED-19) we have to seek out ways to cope.  My choice of antidepressent is laughter.  Some of these were so funny to me, at the time I could not even read them aloud!!!!  Please pass on those that hit you as the funniest!!!








Someone’s idea of a gas mask!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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Why doesn’t Tarzan have a beard when he lives in the jungle without a razor?

Why do we press harder on a remote control when we know the batteries are flat?

Why do banks charge a fee on ‘insufficient funds’ when they know there is not enough?

Why do Kamikaze pilots wear helmets?

Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars, but check when you say the paint is wet?

Whose idea was it to put an ‘S’ in the word ‘lisp’?

What is the speed of darkness?




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Finding Your Calm In The Storm

As a new parent you are aware of everything.  The media hype on the Coronavirus has been overwhelming!  Every where you look there are shortages. terrifying articles, warnings, and fear.  How do you digest all this information and make the best choices for your family?

First, take a deep breath and center yourself.  Do not allow yourself to be swept away in the tumult.  There are always voices of reason in the insanity.  These voices speak truth and calm in the midst of those shouting destruction.

Surround yourself with wise people whose counsel your respect.  As a new parent you are already feeling and experiencing stress.  This is part of going through events for the first time.  The responsibility of making decisions for someone other than just you is huge.  The choices you make for your baby are major.

As a new parent you are hyper focused on the needs of your baby.  This is as it should be.  If you have any questions or concerns ask!!!!  Ask your relatives and friends.  Call your pediatrician.  Better to be the irritating new parent than to not obtain the information you need.

The greatest concern with Coronavirus is reparatory problems.  If your baby is struggling to breath get help.  Better to be safe than sorry.  New babies are just learning to breath outside the womb.  They often have erratic breaths.  I encourage you to be very aware.  No one knows your baby as well as you do.  If your baby is having difficulty breathing go to the doctor’s office or the Emergency Room at your local hospital.  Do not sit in a room full of sick people.  Have someone else go with you who can wait to be called while you keep your baby away from those who are ill.  If it is not too cold, stay in the car with your baby until you are called to see the doctor.  If that doesn’t work keep your baby in a wrap with her face against your chest, covered with a blanket.  This will minimize the germs close to her.

This could make it more difficult, but I encourage you not to go to an urgent care facility.  Go directly to your pediatrician, midwife, or hospital.  You want care from a facility that has your baby’s medical records available.  You want continuity of care.  Once your doctor is aware of the issues your baby is experiencing you want him or her to be the one making medical decisions for your baby.  Involving more doctors or facilities than necessary only opens the door to more problems.  If you can not get to your pediatrician ask him or her where you should go.

My son and his wife had their fourth baby in early February.  It is now March 11.  Their son is five weeks old.  He spent most of the last week in the hospital with respiratory issues.  He is struggling with RSV, Respiratory Syncytial Virus.  This is a virus very common in babies.  It is dangerous in babies under the age of 2 months.  With the concern over the Coronavirus they took him in at the first sign of respiratory issues.  Because he is their fourth, they had a good idea what to look for.

This is our family’s personal experience with reparatory issues in a new born.  DO NOT MESS AROUND!!!!  If you are concerned for your child get help!!!  The best situation is to get to your own pediatrician, midwife or doctor.  If you have concerns call your health care provider and you will be given instructions.

Hugs and Kisses as you care for your little ones!!!  JUDY

Products You Can Use To Protect Your Family

Below find a list of the products endorsed by the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) to protect against the spread of the coronavirus.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the media frenzy. You are a smart person. Follow normal procedures for keeping clean. Wash your hands often, keep your hands away from your face, when in public use disinfectant wipes on grocery carts, etc.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says for “disinfection, diluted household bleach solutions, alcohol solutions with at least 70% alcohol, and most common EPA-registered household disinfectants should be effective.”

Here are some of the registered disinfectants on the EPA’s list
• Clorox Disinfecting Wipes
• Clorox Commercial Solutions
• Clorox Disinfecting Spray
• Clorox Multi-Surface Cleaner + Bleach
• Klercide 70/30
• Lonza Formulation
• Lysol Clean & Fresh Multi-Surface Cleaner
• Lysol Disinfectant Max Cover Mist
• Lysol Heavy-Duty Cleaner Disinfectant Concentrate
• Oxycide Daily Disinfectant Cleaner
• Peak Disinfectant Wipes
• Peroxide Multi Surface Cleaner and Disinfectant
• Peroxide Disinfectant and Glass Cleaner
• Purell Professional Surface Disinfectant Wipes
• Sani-Prime Germicidal Disposable Wipe
• Sani-Prime Germicidal Spray

Don’t Try To Do This Alone…….

Becoming a mother is the greatest life change you will ever experience!!!  When you marry, you take on a new roommate, friend, partner.  It is an enormous change in your life!!  You are no longer an individual, you are part of a team.  You go places together, make decisions together, consider the thoughts and feelings of the other.  However this other person can dress himself, feed himself, make choices and express himself.  When you become a parent you do not have these luxuries!

When you become a parent you have responsibility for the very survival of an innocent helpless individual!  This baby can do literally nothing for herself!!!!!  You are her only option!  In addition, you are recovering from nine months of growing another human.  You are healing from labor, perhaps major surgery,  you are learning a New Normal.  Everything in your life has changed!

YOU NEED HELP!!!!  In ages past family has come in to support new families.  Grandmas and aunties encourage Mommy.  They have ‘been there, done that’ and bring a wealth of experience to the table.  Dads and uncles help new Fathers navigate the path they are on, helping Mommy, learning to comfort and support.

In our urbanized culture this wealth of information and support is sometimes lacking.  Thus, the insurgence of the Postpartum Doula Industry!!!  Women who have ‘been there done that’ and want to assist you in smoothing the way to success.


Postpartum Doulas Are The Support System All New Mothers Need

Heather Marcoux Apr 02, 2019


When we look back through history it is rare to find cultures where a mother’s extended family and community did not support her during the perinatal period, but the modern emphasis on independence and individualism has changed that.

Becoming a mother is the greatest change you will ever make.

Many of us do not have a built-in social support network to help us in those difficult days of early motherhood. A new mom in 2019 may find her close relatives live on the other side of the country, and she doesn’t know her neighbor’s names. Or, she may be surrounded by people who would love to support her—but simply don’t have the experience or time to be of service to her.

This is why we need more postpartum doulas and why more women should have access to them.

Like birth doulas, who help a mother during birth, postpartum doulas aim to empower and support mothers during a vulnerable time in their lives.

They are part lactation consultant, part baby-whisperer, part parenting coach and part therapist, and they can help new parents feel less alone and more confident as their lives change so drastically. But getting a postpartum doula to help you through the fourth trimester can be expensive. As Today recently reported, in America, the cost of hiring a doula “varies from state to state and most people pay out of pocket.” It can be thousands of dollars, a cost too high for many families.

But in America and other western nations where mothers no longer have that built-in community, women are hoping to make doula services more accessible, and suggest we need to stop acting like hiring a doula is akin to hiring a housekeeper and incorporate the service into health care funding. “It seems like a luxury, but for many cultures it [postnatal care] was just a necessity, and I think we need to start looking at it like that too,” Shelley McClure, a postnatal doula and educator in Australia tells ABC News.

One of McClure’s clients, Taycee-Lee Jones, decided to pay for a postpartum doula after welcoming her fourth baby. Paying McClure to help her wasn’t a luxury. It was what she needed to do to survive as her partner had to go back to work quickly. “We don’t have that support that we used to have from our community. We don’t have sisters and aunties all coming to provide that support,” she says. “Shelley as a postpartum doula, came around, brought food, did my dishes, gave me a foot rub, checked in with how I was doing,” she explains, suggesting that the kind of in-home care she received from Shelley could help prevent postpartum depression and should be standard.

Shannon Sproule, a postpartum doula with Full Circle Birth Collective in Edmonton, Canada, agrees. She tells Global News her packages start at $120 for one four-hour session of in-home postpartum care. She recognizes that not everyone can afford that, and believed the future of postpartum care needs to include access to doulas through public programs.