This is a controversial position, to say the least! The buzz is: there is now and has always been 4 month sleep regression. You can buy books, watch videos, and fret about it earnestly. However, this is a new diagnosis. No one heard of 4 month sleep regression until very recently. Why?
My motto for mothering is “Don’t borrow trouble.” This encourages one to look at the problem and deal with it rather than looking ahead for problems that might surface. New parents are faced with so many new things they need to do to succeed. It frustrates me that the infant supply industry would take advantage of these folks. I would rather make things simple than complicate them.
If a baby is having sleeping trouble lets figure out the problem. This gives new parents a feeling of success and hope. It helps them see themselves as in control rather than victims of unwinable trials.
In order to evaluate this lets look at the circumstances surrounding most infants at four months of age. If a mother is going to return to work this is usually when her maternity leave is over. Perhaps there has been an illness in the nuclear family. Maybe the family has had to switch living venues or locations. How does this affect a baby? How does it affect mommy and the rest of the family? What other factors apply?
Mommy returning to work can be a huge emotional conflict for her. If she has enjoyed her time with baby, passing this torch on to another is difficult. This situation in her heart affects baby. She has to interview others with the intent of having them replace her in caring for her child. That is a tough thing to go through. If she is unable to find suitable help she struggles. There are the financial ramifications, concerns for the safety of her baby, scheduling issues, and on and on. Just talking about it brings up stress.
There are not many ways in an infants life that things like this can be expressed. Baby can’t talk about it even though he feels it. Thus, baby, who may have been doing well in sleeping, finds it disrupted. Understanding why this happens in your baby’s life gives you the ability to resolve it. There are many options for streamlining such issues and helping mommy and baby find peace.
In an effort not to overwhelm this audience I will not approach other issues in this entry! Please share you thoughts. My hope is to serve and learn through this blog!
Articles on Sleep Regression to follow