Please Consider Not Changing Your Residence In The Last Trimester of Your Pregnancy!!!

Over the past year I have worked with several new mommies who delivered weeks or even months before their due dates!  For those of us in the infant industry, due dates are a fluid thing anyway.  A due date is a guess as to when your baby is due.  There is the formula derived from when you last menstruated, etc., but for the most part a due date is simply a guess.  Two weeks either side is normal.  Going much past two weeks after your due date is frowned upon because your placenta and amniotic sack begin to deteriorate.  Yet, I have a close friend who went two weeks over with each of her pregnancies. Her average pregnancy is forty-two weeks. Two weeks early is not a big deal, in 99% of cases.

Anyway, as I started to say, several of the families I worked with over the past year, who delivered several weeks early, had one thing in common:  They had recently changed their residence.  One was due to a flood in their home, others simply chose to change their domicile.  They wanted more room, to be closer to family, etc.

My take on the matter:  Moving is very high on the psychological stress table. #3 in the attached studies.  We rise to the occasion, doing what we need to do to get the job done, without realizing how greatly we are taxing ourselves.  The exhaustion, decisions, confusion, and on and on take way more out of us than we realize.

When you are pregnant you are in a compromised state.  This does not mean you are weak or sick, however you are more vulnerable in many ways.  You are building another human being.  This other being takes what they need from you physically.  They have to in order to survive.  Emotionally you are gearing up for the biggest change in your life; total responsibility for another human. Everything in your life is affected.  It is huge.  To add more stress to this simply is not wise.

Streamline your life when you are pregnant.  When planning  to become pregnant put other major life changes on hold.  Focus on this one.  Enjoy your pregnancy, rest when you are able, remove as much stress as possible for the mix.

There will be times when pregnant women have no control over their move.  It will just have to happen, ie. the family with the flood in their home, they had to move out for repairs, an essential job change, an emergency, etc.   If this is you, do all you can to find peace.  Hire others to lift boxes, etc.  Do what ever you are able to delegate.  Leave the unnecessary decisions and jobs until after your baby arrives.  For a planner like me this sounds excruciating, so I can totally relate with the difficulty.  However, delivering too early brings another whole set of difficulties, some even life threatening.  You are choosing the lesser of two evils.  Choose well.

JUDY

Stress Evaluation Tools

The Top 5 Most Stressful Life Events

https://www.uhhospitals.org/Healthy-at-UH/articles/2015/07/the-top-5-most-stressful-life-events

Everyone experiences stress, but many don’t know how to manage it. When major life stressors come up, it’s important to handle them properly to avoid getting hurt. The top five most stressful life events include:

  • Death of a loved one
  • Divorce
  • Moving
  • Major illness or injury
  • Job loss

It might feel like stress is an emotional issue – something that lives strictly inside your head. But stress can become a physical issue as well, especially when dealing with the most stressful things in life.

 

Dartmouth University stress affecters

{These are not specifically for pregnancy.  However, they are good indicators of what adds stress to our lives.  Don’t freak out, just look over the list and be aware of which issues are obvious in your life.  Take steps to remove those that are unnecessary. Enjoy your pregnancy and the first year of your baby’s life.  Leave the stressors for later on.}

https://www.dartmouth.edu/~eap/library/lifechangestresstest.pdf

Life Change Index Scale (The Stress Test)

Event

Impact Score

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My Score

Death of spouse

100

Divorce

73

Marital Separation

65

Jail Term

63

Death of close family member

63

Personal injury or illness

53

Marriage

50

Fired at work

47

Marital reconciliation

45

Retirement

45

Change in health of family member

44

Pregnancy

40

Sex difficulties

39

Gain of a new family member

39

Business readjustment

39

Change in financial state

38

Death of a close friend

37

Change to a different line of work

36

Change in number of arguments with spouse

35

Mortgage over $20,000

31

Foreclosure of mortgage or loan

30

Change in responsibilities at work

29

Son or daughter leaving home

29

Trouble with in laws

29

Outstanding personal achievement

28

Spouse begins or stop work

26

Begin or end school

26

Change in living conditions

25

Revisions of personal habits

24

Trouble with boss

23

Change in work hours or conditions

20

Change in residence

20

Change in schools

20

Change in recreations

19

Change in church activities

19

Change in social activities

19

Mortgage or loan less than $20,000

17

Change in sleeping habits

16

Change in number of family get-togethers

15

Change in eating habits

15

Vacation

13

Christmas approaching

12

Minor violation of the law

11

Total

Directions If an event mentioned above has occurred in the past year, or is expected in the near future, copy the number in the score column. If the event has occurred or is expected to occur more than once, multiply this number by the frequency of the event.

 

Scoring The Life Change Index

The body is a finely timed instrument that does not like surprises. Any sudden change stimuli which affects the body, or the reordering of important routines that the body become used to, can cause needless stress, throwing your whole physical being into turmoil.

The previous chart will give you some idea of how to informally score yourself on Social Readjustment Scale. Since being healthy is the optimum state you want to achieve, being sick is the state of being you most want to avoid.

 

Life Change Units.                                   300+;                      150-299;                   less than 150

Likelihood Of Illness In Near Future: about 80 percent, about 50 percent,  about 30 percent,

The higher your life change score, the harder you have to work to get yourself back into a state of mental and physical good health.

T.H.Holmes and T.H. Rahe. “The Social Readjustment Rating Scale,” Journal of Psychosomatic Research. 11:213, 1967.

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